When you are acclaimed for excellence during times of crisis you may not feel so good in a non-crisis environment. You may not shine so bright, perform so well, be quite so acclaimed. If crisis is how you satisfy your personal need to be needed, to feel accomplished, to be respected, to be heard, to be noticed, blah blah blah, then you will naturally seek out, create, attract, be drawn into situations that will allow you to meet this need. Your environments and relationships will be filled to the brim with one crisis after another.
Perhaps there's a better way to get your need met. Perhaps there's a way to feel needed and still exist in peaceful, cooperative, and synergistic environments. It's amazing to watch the content and features of a person's life break apart and rebuild with almost the same irreverent qualities. People change mates but the essence of the relationship is the same. People change jobs and the same complaints emerge as before. People get out of debt, lose weight, move to different cities, and nothing really changes. It's a scary thing. I've seen the inside view and it's very scary. This déjà vu type phenomenon has left me baffled and disheartened. Here's the deal; when we treat the symptoms, the root cause remains unaffected and it emerges again and again. Our outer lives tell the same story over and over like a broken record until we finally get it. The outer reflects the inner. The outer is a symptom; the inner is the root cause. The outer is the image in the mirror; the inner is the real object. You would not stand in the mirror with the intention of washing your face and wash the reflection of your face in the mirror, would you? ? I didn't think so. Well that is exactly what we are doing when we focus on treating our symptoms.
A fundamental place to begin transformation is by being responsible for understanding your personal needs and ensuring that they are met in an appropriate context. Get your needs met appropriately and permanently and your life will be transformed for sure.
Robin Harris is a DesignerLife Coach whose focus is to empower self-motivated entrepreneurs and individuals to achieve their greatest potential while discovering and honoring their core values. Contact Robin through her web site http://www.designerlifecoaching.com or by email at robin@designerlifecoaching.com
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